Caya: Home For The Holidays!
A little back story:
My name is Emily and I am from Stowe, Vermont and I grew up here with my parents and 2 sisters. I started dating Sam, the quarterback for our local high school the beginning of our freshman year. We dated throughout high school and he was the one I wanted to spend forever with, but then came the summer of 2009, the summer my heart broke.
Summer 2009: Sam and I had been together for almost 4 years. I was accepted into Stanford University in California, which was my dream school that I had worked so hard to get into. Sam had no desire to leave Vermont, he was going to Middlebury College to play football. I tried so hard to ignore the fact that we were going to colleges on the opposite sides of the country, even though Sam said we would make it work long distance.
Friday, August 7th, 2009: Sam and I had gone to a movie and decided to go to the local diner afterwards and some of our friends were there. Sam and some of his buddies were talking about MC and the fact they were leaving in a few days for football training. I was sad because I was the only one that was truly leaving and going off to college. After our friends left, Sam asked what was wrong and I got up and left to go outside. He followed me out and we got into a fight and I told him there was no way we could make this work long distance and I broke up with him. We were both silent as Sam drove me home, I got out of the car and that was the last time I saw him. I didn’t answer his calls or texts over the weekend, he left for Middlebury that Monday for football camp and I left a week later for Stanford.
Christmas Trip Home 2016
Over the next 7 years I remained in California, I graduated from Stanford and went on to Medical School, and I am about to start my OBGYN residency. I went home occasionally for the holiday’s, but I rarely went out because I didn’t want to run into Sam. During my trip home Christmas 2016, I had found out that Sam had started dating Kristin, a teacher he worked with at the high school and that they were serious. One night my childhood best friend, Alyssa asked me to go out for a couple drinks to catch up at the local bar, which is basically a high school reunion during the holidays. Reluctantly, I went out with her and was having a great time until Sam walked in… with Kristin. That was the first time I had seen him since we broke up, he walked over and said hello to us and introduced Kristin as they walked over to join their friends.
I felt dizzy… and sick. I wasn’t sure if I was going to throw up or pass out but all the emotions that I had kept bottled up over the last seven years had hit me like a ton of bricks and I needed to get out of there. I told Alyssa I needed to go, and she drove me home. When I got home and changed my flight to the morning after Christmas and successfully avoided running to Sam (and Kristin) over the next 3 days.
Christmas Trip Home 2017
Thursday, December 21st, 2017: I flew back home, and my parents were waiting for me at the gates. Once we got in the car, my mom informed me that she had ran into Sam’s mom at the grocery store and that Sam and Kristin had broken up (she wasted no time in telling me this). Like all mothers do, she encouraged me to go and talk to Sam because she knew I wasn’t over him after all this time. I suggested we stop discussing Sam and I asked about the family’s plans and if they knew what Santa was going to bring my niece and nephews.
Friday, December 22nd, 2017: Alyssa called and begged me to go out with her ago for drink, and I told her no. Twenty minutes later, Alyssa was at the door and my parents basically kicked me out, they said I needed to have fun and loosen up a bit. Sure enough, just as it happened last year, Sam walked in and said hello on his way to the table with his friends. I needed a breather, so I got up and went to the bathroom, and of course there was a line. As I was waiting, Sam turned the corner, and as luck would have it, we were the only one’s standing in the hall waiting. We made small talk about school, our careers, and families, but we went on with our night separately. Later, Sam and his friends came to say bye as they were leaving. Sam asked if I wanted to go to the coffee shop tomorrow and catch up, I agreed and gave him my number and told him to just let me know what time to meet him.
Saturday, December 23rd, 2017: Sam sent me a text at 10:00 a.m. and said to meet him in an hour. I rushed to get ready and went to the coffee shop to meet him. Sam was there waiting for me when I walked in, he had a Peppermint Mocha and chocolate chip scone waiting on me. I couldn’t believe after all this time, he still knew my favorite holiday coffee shop combination. I sat down, and we talked as if no time had passed, and as if our breakup hadn’t happened at all. We eventually talked about our run-in last year at the bar, I told him that after I saw him at the bar that night with her that I had booked a flight home because it killed me seeing him with someone else. Sam ended up telling me that Kristin and he broke up not long after they ran into me last year. Apparently, Kristin knew our history and that whole evening Sam couldn’t stop looking at me, and she got upset and asked Sam if he was still in love with me after all these years, and he told her yes.
I sat there dumbfounded, how was it after 8 years he was still in love with me? All I could do was smile at his comment. Before we knew it 2 hours had passed, and I had some Christmas shopping to do. Sam asked me what I was doing later that night and if I wanted to grab dinner, I said yes, and he told me that he would pick me up at seven.
Honestly, I don’t know who was more excited, my mom or sisters when I told them I had to skip on family game night to go to dinner with Sam. But, once Sam arrived to pick me up, he came in the house and started talking to my parents, sisters, and their husbands and next thing I knew Sam was ordering pizzas with my dad and said that we were staying in for game night.
As the night was ending, I knew I had started to fall in love with Sam again and I never wanted my trip home to end.
Sunday, December 24th, 2017: I woke up thinking that yesterday was a dream and it had not really happened, but that thought lasted only a moment when I received a text from Sam. He said how much fun he had last night and asked if I wanted to grab lunch at the diner before our family’s festivities started that evening. I told him that I had a better idea and to meet me downtown at noon in the Town Square. As Sam came walking up, I could tell he was smiling, I had to go with “our tradition” that we had every Christmas Eve. We were both terrible at ice skating, but we always had fun doing so. After we were done skating, we held hands and walked to the diner to grab some French fries and hot chocolate, as I was waiting for Sam to come back to the table, I pulled a gift from my bag to have on the table when he got back. When he returned to the table, he started shaking his head and laughing as he pulled a card from his jacket pocket. Our tradition for 4 years was to go ice-skating then head to the diner for a snack and hot chocolate to exchange our gifts. My gift to him was framed picture of us at Martha’s Vineyard during the last summer we spent together. Sam’s gift was a plane ticket that he bought himself for a trip to California to visit me for a week. Before I knew it, I blurted out “I love you Sam” and we kissed. Sam told me that he loved me too and asked if we could spend Christmas Eve together as a couple with our families. I told Sam there was nothing that I would like better than to do that. We left the diner and spent the whole rest of the evening together.
Monday, December 25th, 2017: I must have been dreaming of a White Christmas, because when I woke up there was a blanket of snow outside and it was still coming down hard. After we opened presents and had breakfast, my niece and nephews went outside to play in the snow with my dad. Not long after they had gone out, the kids yelled inside for me to come outside with them. As I went out the front door, Sam was standing on the porch with a small gift box. Sam went on to say that he had bought this for me the summer after high school and that he had planned on giving it to me that Christmas, but we had broken up. He continued to say that he had held on to it all these years, hoping that he would have another chance. Before I could say a word, Sam got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.
A lot has happened in the past 11 months, I’m sure you are wondering what my answer to Sam was, right? Of course, I said yes but there was a lot for us to figure out because I was in California and starting my OBGYN residency while Sam was still here teaching. Sam flew out to visit me the week of Valentine’s Day and to our surprise we found out that my birth control had failed during the holiday’s (I had been on an antibiotic) and that I was pregnant. Sadly, I ended up miscarrying two week later. Sam and I flew back and forth to spend time with each other during breaks from school trying to figure out wedding plans and our future. We are getting married December 22, 2018, one year from the day we reconnected. I switched my residency to the University of Vermont Medical Center and I discovered a new birth control option that a lot of the women in Vermont was using. The Caya is a one-size-fits-most diaphragm that was designed with the female anatomy in mind, I was really intrigued by this, so I had my OBGYN provider write me a prescription for one. The Caya is good for up to two years after the first use and is used with a water-based spermicide that you can get over the counter at most pharmacies or grocery store. The best part is its so comfortable you don’t even know that it’s in! I’m a huge advocate of Caya both personally and professionally!
Anyways, back to Sam and me… we have bought a house in Richmond, Vermont because of its easy commute for both of us to get to work. Sam surprised me in September by getting me a chocolate lab for my birthday, so we have a fur baby while we hold off on real babies for another couple of years (thanks to Caya)!! I am so incredibly happy with how things worked out for Sam and me. If it wasn’t for me going home for the holiday’s and running into Sam, who knows where my story would have gone.
I hope that the Caya US Team loves my #BirthControlStory and will share it with other women. Always remember to have a backup method of birth control when you are on an antibiotic! Also, be sure to talk to your provider about different options of birth control that are available for you!
*Disclaimer: The names in this story have been changed: This is a reader submission.
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